I wonder if you have to reach a certain age first before you start learning more from the actions of others than what you learn from your own? Is there a point in time where the bulk of our learning switches from “ok, I did that wrong” to, “ok, he’s doing that wrong. Note to self: don’t do that”.
Maybe that’s what this ‘older and wiser’ thing I keep hearing about, is about?
It seems easier now to observe another person’s actions and see right through to the core of it; from their action I know how to – or not to, behave. I don’t even need to be the recipient of their behaviour to feel how wrong it is.
In this case though, I am the recipient, and I have learned this: at all times act with integrity. Be straightforward and honest. Don’t be a dick. Don’t give out an illusion, give the truth. Make sure everyone’s on the same page. Make sure anyone else you have entangled knows what’s going on. If all you want is to scratch an itch then fucking come out and say it. Don’t use and abuse and then be a prick about it.
Dishonesty is not becoming.
