marcus was a little lamb…

There’s an interesting story today about a school in London where the children helped rear a lamb from birth, then voted 13-1 to send him to the slaughterhouse.

 

He was part of a farm set up for the kids to help them learn the very important and very overlooked question of where our food comes from.

 

I think this is the most fantastically awesome thing I have read this week.

Marcus the lamb, in happier days…

 

Don’t get me wrong – I’d prefer it if little Marcus the lamb at least got to see out his first full year of life, and at most got to live a full and pampered life, but this is an important lesson I think everyone should be made to go through. If you want to eat meat, you really should understand where it comes from.

 

Growing up I was reared on the ‘meat and three veg’ diet. I never questioned how the food got to me; as far as I was concerned, chops came from the shop, on styrofoam trays, wrapped in plastic. I made no connection between the meat I ate, and the little baby cows and lambs I saw frolicking in the fields.

 

This is probably going to sound naff, but around the age of 16 or 17 (late in life, I admit), I had an epiphany while eating my obligatory chop for dinner – I suddenly tasted blood and nothing else, and in front of my eyes as clear as the 80’s wallpaper in the dining room, saw a cow with a chop-sized chunk out of its side.

 

Then it was just a matter of connect-the-dots.

 

My last meal of meat was silverside (my most hated of all the meat creations). I finished it, and turned to my mum to proclaim I was becoming vegetarian. I had had enough. I realised I only ever liked the taste of meat when it was masked by something else – a nice full bolognaise, or mushroom sauce, or a mound of mashed potato. Meat, by itself, was disgusting.

 

In my university years, I read more into the production of meat, joining animal rights newsgroups online, speaking to like-minded people, discovering the whole dirty secrets within the meat industry. My stance became ethical – I wanted to pull myself out of the meat production-line, reduce demand by one. Whatever impact it had, it was a kinder soul I found myself imbibed with.

 

Any argument on this goes round and round – yes, I still wear leather; yes, as of recently I’ve started eating the occasional fish due to health reasons (and now call myself a vegequarian); yes, I’m aware that even the shampoos I use may have animal products in them, but I’ve reduced demand for eating meat by one. My god, the stories I could tell. Cement, chemicals, hormones, cruelty – I won’t get into it. I don’t deny anyone the choice to eat meat if they so desire.

 

I’m not vegan, but by not consuming red or white meat I’ve at least reduced demand by one, and I’m happy with that. I can only make decisions for myself. Everyone else needs to sort themselves out personally.

 

I won’t get into the argument on fish but to say that my decision to eat fish is partly eastern religion-based: fish have less of a developed nervous system, and therefore slightly less of a karmic imprint (but one, nonetheless).

 

So this story really makes me smile. Parents are spitting and demanding the principal be lynched in front of a leering spitting vitriol-spewing crowd, but how many of them sit down to eat their pork, and lamb, and beef every night?

 

The hypocrisy is rife. “How dare you expose our children… to the… truth… about where the food they put in their mouths and therefore nourish their spirit, comes from…”

 

Give me a break. Let the kiddies know and understand, and make their own decision based on the full facts. Let them not become hypocrites like the rest of us.

rant alert

Now this is probably going to be a rant and slightly ‘diary entry’ ish so feel free to skip it. I say probably because I don’t know what I’m going to write yet. I’m just going to start writing and see what hideous creature I give birth to. I doubt there’s going to be a point to it; I just really really need to rant.

 

It’s only Tuesday night and yet this week already feels like the longest, hardest, most depressing, constricting, claustrophobic week ever. I mean what the fuck, really. Can it get any more annoying? And the stupid thing is I can’t even pin down what, exactly, is making it this way.

 

I say, this week is shit, and then I say, why? and I have no answer. It just is. The little things. Every single little thing. Everything is hard. Everything takes effort. Everything seems so very very not worth it. I look around and it all just looks like maggots flailing around in primordial ooze. Pointless. Not worth my time. Sans nourishment.

 

I’m aware of this mood, conscious that obviously something in me is currently askew and I should just try and ride it out, shut the fuck up and get through it, see things as perfectly fine and not one great difficulty after another. But I can’t.

 

I can feel the unease, simmering just under the surface. I’ve felt it before. Soon I’ll have the irrational thoughts like wanting to quit my job, sell the house and piss off to some foreign country just to see what happens. Or daydreams of standing up in the middle of the office to yell obscenities, tell every idiotic pissant they’re an idiotic pissant, and storming out.

 

Of course, if I can hold out until the rational mind decides to return from hiatus, I won’t do these things. All the more pity. I should. My world is too constricted with the rules and regs. I can’t breathe.

 

The other thing that bubbles away at times like this, is my old friend ‘why?’ Why why why why. Why am I here? Why do I put up with this? Why am I letting myself get the shit kicked out of me? Why do I continually do things I don’t want to do? Why am I doing things that don’t inspire me? Why am I persisting with the unhappy? Why can’t I get my shit together and just sort this crap out? Why why why.

 

What am I waiting for? The second coming? Is that when I’ll finally renovate my house (so I can get the fuck out and away from the neighbours with their seriously fucked up granny taste in music which they like playing louder as the night gets later and they get drunker and what the fuck is with her droopy tits and her bad peroxide job anyway)? Is that when I will finally go after a job that inspires me? Is that when I’ll finally grow some balls and take some risks?

 

I mean I could get proper sideswiped tomorrow and go all bug-on-windscreen and lights out, and this would be all I have made of my life? How depressing is that? It’s a fucking travesty.

 


“Here is a life. Do with it what you will.”

 

oh ok, just let me think about it for, say 3 or 4 DECADES before I decide what I want to do with it.

 

“Ok well don’t take too long; you don’t know how long you’ve got it for, you know.”

 

yeah well i’m really trying but this shit is hard you know.

 

“No it’s not, you’re just being a pussy. You’re just taking life too seriously. You’re just letting the rules get in the way of a great comedy.”


 

I need wine. Lots of wine. And for this week to be over. And for either my sanity to return, or my insanity to start making some very convincing arguments for a permanent move to lala-land.

being erica… or is it being me?

I love ABC iView. Doubly so since my ISP gives it to me quota free.

 

I hardly turn the TV on these days. Too depressing, too mind-numbing. Many more interesting things happening online, on demand.

 

So on a free and lazy Saturday I had a swim in the iView pool and discovered Being Erica, a show I swear is based on me: a 30-something, relatively attractive single childless female in an unfulfilling job, regretting the decisions made along her life path that have lead her to this point.

 

Erica meets Dr Tom, a therapist who is able to send her back in time to relive her regrets so she can do them differently.

 

I’m hoping the message that comes from this is that even if you could live your life again and change your regrettable moments, it will make no difference – things happened how they were meant to happen for a reason. That’s what I live by anyway, to keep myself sane; believing anything else will make me lose the plot.

 

I’m where I am, because I’m meant to be.

 

As Dr Tom says in episode one:

You are where you need to be right now. And when you’re finished doing whatever it is that you’re meant to be doing, then you move on.”

 

 

At a couple of points in the first two episodes, I found myself getting teary – a sure sign it hits close to home.

 

It made me think: If I could go back and change things about my life, would I?

 

Knowing what I know now, would I waste 11 years in a relationship that goes nowhere? Or would I put the love aside and start years earlier on working on a relationship that gave me children, and a husband, and a pretty house in the ‘burbs?

 

Would I stick with my first love – film, and try harder to make a career out of it?

 

Would I have travelled more when I was younger – independently, experiencing more of life by experiencing me, alone, amongst it?

 

They are my major regrets. And the choices and decisions I’ve made regarding them have lead me to be here, at this point in time, thinking the way I do, living like this, doing this.

 

It’s a tough call. I don’t know how productive it is to live in ‘what if’ land, though thousands, including me, travel there often.

 

It’s a great show if you happen to catch it. Dr Tom’s character is fond of quotes to explain things; here’s a few of the gems that resonated with me from the first episode:

 

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity”

-- Albert Einstein       

 

 

Pressure makes diamonds”

-- General Patton       

 

 

The life which is unexamined is not worth living”

-- Plato   

sigh.

IMG_4682e sigh.
my brain is fried.
it tries to find
some kind
of sense,
but it relents
to foggy-
mindedness,
the boggy
pond of wot-the-fuck.
- i'm out of luck.
my mind won't play
today. i may
as well shut down,
release a frown,
embrace the crazy
(hazy as it be)
and free the freak
inside.
my brain is fried.

1 september

first day of spring.

today.

with the rain and the wind

and the grey, angry, pock-marked sea.

 

stand on a podium

raise a fist in the air,

declare:

“today is spring”.

 

(man and his boxes)

“this chaos, i box.

i label. i have dominion.”

bullshit.

 

nature can’t read a calendar

and doesn’t care to.

 

i’ll wait for my own spring.

when the warmth hits my chest.

shows me flowers.

makes me grow.

 

until then,

the next person to proclaim

“first day of spring!”

gets a kick up the clacker.

i know what my life is:

i know what my life is:

musical chairs

dancing around

watching others

find seats

when the music stops

 

i always miss

only just

and yet

by enough

to feel disappointment

a turning away

 

a directional change

a pile of what if

building

in the corner

on top of if only

as chairs disappear

cathartic connections

Two current news stories have been rattling around in my head since I stumbled across them. I can’t shake them. I think I know why. I think I’m meant to gain some understanding from them to slot into my jigsaw-puzzle brain before I’m allowed to move on.

 

The first is a sad tale of a teen party gone wrong, a few suburbs away from me in West Perth. Kertisha Derschaw, 17, befriended a guy at a party, 24, who for reasons unknown, bashed her unconscious and leapt off a balcony. She later died a day before her 18th birthday and he strangled himself in jail.

 

Tragedy all round, really.

 

The second regards Rebekah Lawrence who in 2005, at the age of 34, reached the end of her workday, took all her clothes off and jumped out the second storey window to her death.

 

She’s in the news because there’s now a coroner’s inquiry into whether the intensive self-help course she took on the weekend had anything to do with her naked death leap the following Tuesday. Apparently, quite the possibility, since another guy threw himself out a window to his death while on the same course years earlier, and another guy got naked and stabbed himself to death three days after taking the course. Allegedly. Not for me to decide.

 

Here’s the resonance: I see myself in both of these incidents.

 

When I was 17 I too found myself at a random party in West Perth where there were a few older people I didn’t know (and here’s where mother has kittens..). There was no thought at all that I might have been in any danger, but what if I was? What if I was only two steps away from having danger come bash me in the head and I never knew it?

 

Also, at the age of 17 I hooked up with a 24 year old, which went on to work out perfectly fine (well, for 11 years anyway, before it went Pete Tong), but in the beginning, who was to know that for sure?

 

Now, at 34, I find myself battling inner demons probably much like Rebekah’s – a ticking biological clock, a strange sensation of floating between being a happy and productive member of society and being a packet of mixed nuts, and a job that at times drives me mad enough to think about throwing my computer out the 18th floor window and following it (disclaimer: I never ever would. Computers are expensive things).

 

I’m not making light of her situation; in reality, her story has hit me hard. The inner battles I’ve been going through have made me sometimes wonder whether some sort of structured professional help might be needed. I worry about my age and where my life’s heading (or not heading, more accurately).

 

Here’s the lesson: But for the grace of god…

 

I stand here, at this place, in this time, doing these things, because it is meant to be. The universe has decreed I be here, doing what I’m doing, going through what I’m going through.

 

If it was meant to be any other way, it would be.

 

Perhaps on another parallel universe, I’m Kertisha, or Rebekah, and they’re me. Perhaps their lives continue, and mine’s ended prematurely.

 

It’s fatalistic, but I can’t help feeling that fate is a thread wound through more of my tapestry than I realise. Sure, I make decisions, I sit at the wheel pretending I’m a competent and licensed driver, but maybe my ever-hardworking guardian angels are the ones ensuring that I stay within the boundaries of my fate.

 


 

Now at the end of this thought process I realise how totally self-centred this sounds. Two young women have died in horrible circumstances, and all I can think about is how it affects me. Well it’s not entirely true – first thoughts were of the horror, the tragedy, and the families’ grief, but after that, doesn’t every tragic situation begin to rotate and work its way into our psyche through personal connection, to allow us to come to terms with it?

 

Maybe that word which for years I have had trouble grasping the definition of, is finally starting to make some sense to me – catharsis.